Happiness is our original nature, it is what we feel from the first moment we gaze lovingly into the eyes of a parent, make a new friend at school, receive the gift of someone’s love. True happiness is knowing yourself and staying true to your nature, those little things you love, what inspires you, what makes you so uniquely you. The strange thing is, if you forget who you are, or try to change who you are for others, you begin to actively search for happiness, even though it’s well springs from within you, not from out in the world. Not unlike our bodies contain DNA, your body has spiritual DNA that makes up what makes you happy. So when we stop obsessing about our weight, our relationships, or even our lives, we allow ourselves to be happy because we realize the happiness we will “get” when we have the dream job, or the right “guy”, or enough money, that happiness is already within us. We were born with it, we’ve just done our damndest to smother it over the years with our worthless expectations. Face it, we are all imperfect, permanently and inevitably flawed, and uncontainably beautiful.
How do we get it back? Like most things in life we practice. Identify your most important relationships and make a conscious commitment to being the most loving person you can possibly be. Your intention to love and be loved is the single most crucial key to happiness, because think about it, there is no difference between happiness and love. They emotionally feel the same. A major step in this new intention to love? Gratitude and forgiveness. The phenomenal thing about gratitude is it shifts your perception, you go from an unhappy darkness with little to feel grateful for to a new dawn, one filled with thankfulness. The best part is, the more you practice gratitude your brain changes to one filled with hope and in turn it changes your perception of the world.The easiest way to learn to practice gratitude, is to express it and the funny thing is, expressing it plants a kernel of happiness in others that has the possibility of growing to an entire forest of delighted contentment and pleasure. But, let’s not forget, the co-partner to gratitude is forgiveness. Happiness is easy and natural until the moment someone causes you pain. It is impossible to hold on to a gripe and be happy because well, have you ever heard of a happy victim? Nope, me either. Besides, holding on to that grudge is just a decision to keep on suffering, and who the heck wants that? Not me. Where resentment is a ball and chain, forgiveness, that’s been known to set you free. When you grieve over something that happened in the past, you miss out on the happiness available in the now.
The take from? Yep, thanks for hanging in this long, I think Draakje Dailey left after the first sentence. Happiness may seem to be something of your childhood, but you truly can get it back. The good news is, it is never too late to be present and to really show up in your life. Consistently remind yourself, you are the architect of your own life and at those times you find you can’t remember the last time you were happy, just remember, to renovate your heart, you have to go back to the drawing table, draw on the possibilities of those things you are grateful for, erase away the things that need forgiveness, prepare just for today and smile because no one can make you happier than you can make yourself. Well there ya are, the Cao has decided life didn’t happen to me, it is unfolding happily before me. The pain of this month will pass because I am grateful for all I have, which by the way, includes all of you.