Sticks and Stones

Sticks and stones will break our bones, but words will break our hearts. ~ Robert Fulghum


Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.  Ah, that tried and true mantra all mothers teach their offspring when other kids choose to pick on them. Is it really true? Honestly? No. It’s been found that physical and emotional pain use the same receptors of the brain. In fact, recent research has indicated that some of the medications (i.e. Tylenol)  used to treat physical pain also alleviate emotional pain. But, is numbing our pain a very smart thing to do? I don’t believe it can possibly be because when we numb our pain we miss the lesson the pain is teaching us. Unlike physical pain, where medication may be indicated to reduce swelling and to heal, our brains are not fixed in nature. (before we go further I want to stress, I am not talking about brain illness, I am speaking about the pain caused by the words or actions of another. I seriously don’t want to step on toes this time).


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Spandex and Dental Floss

“Seize the moment. Remember all those women on the ‘Titanic’ who waved off the dessert cart.” ~ Erma Bombeck
Every year about this time of year I do my once a year shopping for a bathing suit.

Tossing the Bucket

“I would not have traded two minutes of the joy and the grief with that man for two decades of anything with another.”
- Lou Gehrig’s wife, Eleanor



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Naked & Exposed

Whether I’m wearing lots of makeup or no makeup, I’m always the same person inside. ~Lady Gaga
Not too often do I shoot a picture without makeup. Continue reading

Restless in Kashmir

A camel makes an elephant feel like a jet plane. ~Jackie Kennedy
Cao~Traveling the desert -crop 2
I have so often been fascinated by the iconic picture of the young woman nomad in National Geographic magazine. ( Continue reading

If I Could Only Unknow What I Know

“My mom said the only reason men are alive is for lawn care and vehicle maintenance.”~ Tim Allen


I know you think you know all there is to know about my mum, but that’s seldom the case. She is a lot more than a 5 foot nothing bridal magazine toting, husband fishing for her daughter bundle of energy. And yeah, I know she means well, but heck, I’ve had to put up with a lot through the years too. She isn’t the only one holding the short end of the stick in familial relationships. Yeah, my life with her hasn’t been such a riot either. I get it, I’m a gawky, relationshiply challenged, too quiet, always watching daughter, but hey, she has a few adjectives before the word mom too. Not that I would write them here, should she decide to be one of my 5 followers today. Seriously! We have our moments.. I mean, I’m sure those close to me know at times I can have a bit of a sarcastic  acerbic wit, but seriously, she takes the cake. Last week she dragged me by an ear made an appointment for me at my doctors office for some leg pain I’ve been having. This doctor is part of a sort of one-stop entire family type practice and while waiting for my turn to see my doctor, a lady walks out of the office across the waiting room. As she passed, my mom in her not so quiet whisper, yells “That woman just came out of the pediatrician’s office without a child, and was carrying a book, ‘What To Expect When You’re Expecting’. Was she shopping? Or is she a little early for her appointment…” Mortified, I huddled under my chair.


She’s always been a little left of center. I suppose it’s from raising four children while her doctor husband worked all the time.  It didn’t help that my “bother” was a wild one. But seriously, me, being the youngest was tough. My oldest sister was ten years older than me and she and my two states away sister were gone to college by the time I was nine. I grew up in this huge house and as each child left it got quieter and bigger and the chore’s list got longer and longer. I sware one time, I am pretty sure I over heard my mother telling a friend on the phone “I turned my uterus into a housing development for all these kids.  I think the only thing that makes it worth the pain!  (of having kids) is they become your slaves!” The worst part is the older I got, I tended to notice the small things, you know, the little interior design changes here and there. You come home one day and your sister’s stuff  and a second hand bunk bed is now in your room and her  old room is the new office. Or all those cherished pictures of us growing up are replaced by pictures of the dog. A lot of pictures. Of the dog. Kid you not, there was even a professional picture of my mum and dad.. holding the dog.


Now though, the physics of the relationship have changed. Again. And it’s like I’m the mom and she’s the child. I’ve actually lately nicknamed her Elf.  I can’t help it, she hides candy everywhere! Over the weekend I was fixing a few things on her computer. What this typically means is I sit in front of it, pretend I am doing something worthy of an IT giant like myself, (you know, wiggle a few cords) and after much ado, click the “on” button and say, “okay, it’s fixed now.” While impressively dawdling, bored, I opened her nightstand and inside were cookies, mini-candy bars and 3 different kinds of breakfast bars.  Luckily before I opened my mouth I saw this months edition of Bridal magazine with pages ear-notched for further study. Yeah, you can bet I closed it quickly and left the room.  With a half dozen mini Snickers, of course. In my “old age” I’ve come to realize, sometimes parenting is all about picking your battles and this isn’t one I was ready to face. Just a little lighter reading today. I’m sure I couldn’t possibly have made it up. Much. Have a low gravity hump day.



Hair: D!va, Juno **Collabor88**

Jewelry: [Mandala], Billionaire & Odyssey Zeus **Collabor88**

Shirt: Ison, Silk Camisole

Skirt: Ricielli, High Waist skirt

Handbag: H.M.A.E.M., Nora  **La Metallique**

Shoos (In order of appearance)

Maitreya: Antheia  **Collabor**

Elysium, Mei Wedge **La Metallique**

22769, Octopus **La Metallique**

Chair: Art Dummy, Drafting Chair

Poses: Di’s Opera and Katinks


More to Life

“There is more to life than simply increasing its speed.” ― Mahatma Gandhi


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