Just a little bit of an observation blog today, I’ve been too busy with the Salimar Luxury District’s Grand Opening to take any blog pics, but somewhere in the middle of the night, the title of this blog whispered through my head. Naturally it’s made me contemplative about a few of the recent changes in my life, so I thought I’d spill it here in black and white.
Okay I admit it, I am a big chicken. I really am. Especially when it comes to virtual relationships. Maybe I am just not ready for the big leagues of online dating, but good golly Miss Molly, every time I turn around I hear on the news about another person meeting some psycho with bad intentions online. Second Life is no different for me, it’s enough to make me hide under a pixel rock and keep whispering to myself “are we there yet?” But honestly, I wonder often if we allow ourselves to believe the lies because we want so much for the love to be true? I think Barbara Bush hit it on the head when she was quoted, “Clinton lied. A man might forget where he parks or where he lives, but he never forgets oral sex, no matter how bad it is.” Are we so desperate these days we choose to build a relationship on soft lies and veils of dishonesty?
So, in retrospect of past disasters that have befallen me, I post my, “tips to monitoring his/her veracity.” Listen to their words. Even habitual liars suffer from guilt or anxiety at times. They tend to cover their lies in a negativity. Do they use the words, hate, worthless, sad a lot? Does the person have an answer for everything? Did you know that zero hesitancy in answering an accusation is actually more likely to indicate a lie? Typically when you ask a question, a person has to think about, to form their answer. And most indicative of all? The person fails to talk in the first person. Generally when a person tells a lie they don’t use “I” because they are trying to distance themselves from ownership and responsibility of the lie. So don’t just listen to the conversation, listen to the individual words, or the spaces where nothing is said.
Take from? I suppose there is. We can spot a lie as it lies like a dog on our front doorstep, or we can choose to believe it the truth. Do you want to believe the lie that badly? I think it was best put by comedian Tim Allen when he said, “Men are liars. We’ll lie about lying if we have to. I’m an algebra liar. I figure two good lies make a positive.” It’s all about the receiver of the lies motivation for believing. Just something to ponder.