I admit it, there are times when I am worthless as a Second Life blogger. Don’t get me wrong, I love Second Life and adore the friends I’ve found there, it’s just every once in a while, I yearn to be elsewhere and having “retired” from modeling two years ago now, it becomes easier and easier to give in to these whims and just wander away. Summer is consistently the moment when my gaze pulls from the computer monitor to out the window where I see a cacophony of sound and color. Whether its an early morning sunrise, the bright rainbow of para-surfer’s gliding up and down the beach, or the heavily salted scent backdropping the deep fuschia of the hibiscus plants dotting up and down the lawn, I want to be there dead center in the thick of it.
I think some times its hard to let yourself be happy. Do you? Sometimes we just get so caught up in “stuff” we don’t take the time to stand back and take a good look at what we are doing to ourselves. We scurry about, over-extending our commitments and then stress because we have so much left undone. We are so worried about letting people down we don’t realize we are letting our first love, ourselves, down. What good is a life when you won’t even stand up for the most important person in it? Seems selfish, doesn’t it? Sometimes one of the most selfLESS acts we can do is to forgive ourselves. Forgive ourselves for needing time for ourselves, forgive ourselves for having the need to cradle your own wants and needs for once.
Bikini: Baiastice, Shechy . Hair: Lelutka, Pocahontas . Glasses: Emery, Leopardous Fuschia . Bag: Baiastice, Twiggy . Feet: GOS Boutique, Mesh Feet . FlipFlops: GOS Boutique, Mesh FlipFlops (These are part of the collection with the one time system that makes skin matching easy by automatically retexturing to match the over 250 skintones in the database, it literally took me 3 seconds to change the foot tone when I changed to a tan tone for the bathing suit shoots)
Quit acting like a martyr, it’s not a criminal act to make something about YOU for once. You deserve special, you deserve to be the center of the attraction, you deserve the last piece of the pie too. It’s like we, as women feel we must always serve others first. Don’t get me wrong, service to others is a wonderful, fulfilling commitment, but is it necessary to be subservient to others? Big difference. I think it a learned response honesty. My mother was the same way, as probably was her mother, on and on back into history. But as a learned response, it can be unlearned as well. All we need is to learn to create boundaries instead. Cherish those around you, but hold a piece of the cherishing for yourself. By learning to take care of the one doing the caring, we become happier and healthier.
Top: (No), Crochet dress in crème. Bikini: Baiastice,Shechy bikini top . Shorts: Leezu!, Heather mesh shorts in white . Shoes: Maitreya Gold, flip-flops . Glasses: [sYs], Carmen glasses . Jewelry: [Mandala], Leather feather earrings and Polly White bangles . Purse: Baiastice, Twiggy bag . Hairs: D!va, Yuri
I know, a little high gravity today, but it’s a Tuesday, we have the rest of the week to recover. Take from? Sure. Don’t tie yourself needlessly to things or people. Help where you can, motivate and delegate in other areas, stand by and watch in the least important (to you) activities. You can’t possibly do it all and it’s really not necessary that you do. In life there is no grand finish line at the end so racing toward, well, nothing, hardly seems a beneficial lifestyle. Slow down, love what and who surround you, never stop learning, never stop growing and sharing but always remember to give time to yourself, even if just to take a few moments to rest, close your eyes and breathe. We all have our definition of paradise but it should never be some conceptual dream hidden in our subconscious, create your own paradise in the here and now, it’s your life, don’t you deserve it?