It’s going to be a bit high-gravity today, I am still a little lethargic and grumpy after being sick. Is it okay to mention I am a bad patient? Frankly being sick ticks me off, but being sick for three weeks? That’s enough to make me neurotically insane. Well that’s my excuse anyway. My coworker? I don’t think she can find one. I take a highway to get to work as opposed to the Interstate because I prefer a drive with a view. At one point in my travels there is an Interstate off-ramp and the traffic merges on to the four-lane highway. My coworker exited the interstate and had to travel across the right lane to the left lane I was driving in because the right lane eventually veers onto another road. I guess she didn’t think I was slowing down to let her merge in (I was) because when she swerved over in front of me she began shaking her fists at me. To this I say (1) is it everyone on the roads job to make sure you get to drive everywhere you want, right when you want, without you ever having to apply those brakes and wait your turn? And (2) I wonder if you were embarrassed when I arrived at work right behind you and you saw it was a coworker you have worked with and joked with for 13 years that you were shaking your fists at? I kinda hope she was, I would have been, aggression in driving can lead to fatal decisions. But all this reminded me of something. Happiness. How can you be happy when you are acting like a maniac?
I’ve found that there are several keys to happiness and this Monday, this lethargic Monday with a cranky co-worker and a crankier Cao, I am going to save myself and focus more clearly on my happiness. I am going to accept what I have in life because happy people have modest levels of expectation and aspirations. In other words, they want what they can get, while unhappy people never seem to get what they want. I am going to live for today, for right now. The bummer of an incident from this morning? It’s done and over, it’s in the past. All those dreams I have for my future? Nope not going to worry with goals either because dime to donuts fate has other plans anyway. Besides, I am optimistic and feel I have free choice and complete control over the events in my life. I believe with all my heart that the future is 100% going to happen, how’s that for odds? I will choose how I deal with any situation and by being myself, by not trying to be someone else, staying busy and abstaining from throwing myself into one of those dreaded “us” and “them” categories, I expect to live a life filled with happiness. Why? When I am driving down the road and someone cuts me off I am going to slow down, be happy and forgive you because bottling emotions and bad feelings causes psychological distress and physical discomfort.
Take from? Though I’m not sure I got here from there, but here is it. When you act badly, always be careful because you never know who might be watching. If you’re feeling aggressive, mentally slow down and try to find a happy place because no one needs that kind of anger roiling around in them. Mark Twain once said, “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” Life’s short, why be angry? Slow down, be optimistic about life, look at all the good about you and just be happy, happy, happy.