Get Out of Fail Free Card

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. ~Steve Jobs

Get Out of Fail Free CardYep, trying another skin, this has been a challenging few weeks. I kinda love this one, so close to being light enough for me. It’s from Lara Hurley, Lina **NEW** Lara Hurley SLURL:

You have to get out of your own way. Asking yourself the right questions, can have a life altering effect on your outcome. When making a tough decision, whether it’s who you will marry, or honestly even just what to eat for dinner, taking a moment to ask “could the outcome of this (whatever you are deciding) be better than it currently is” oft makes us focus long enough on ourselves that we realize, indeed it can, and perhaps what we have chosen is not what we should “settle” on. If failure wasn’t possible, would you decide the same way? I think I’ve missed a lot of opportunities in my life because I feared failure, and the sad part is there really is no such thing. Businesses fail, not people. A failure is an omission of occurrence or performance, i.e. the failure to pay rent on time, but when it comes to humans we are more likely to suffer deficiencies not failures. For example, I wanted to be married by 30 but didn’t quite make it. Am I a failure, nah, not at all. Why? Because I didn’t settle, I chose to think about it a while longer, asked myself the right question (what makes me happy) and realized marriage isn’t necessary for happiness. Don’t we owe it to ourselves to live our best possible life? An examined life? It’s the shortfalls and mistakes that keep us striving, creating, and innovating. I read somewhere less than 10% of Cezanne’s paintings bear his signature and some art historians theorized this was because he was never fully satisfied with them. Were they failures, not at all, they are still his and still collected, cherished and studied.

Get Out of Fail Free Card Outfit: GizzA, Wild Seduction **SAVIAD, Tiger Alley** . Hair: Truth: Electra **NEW** . Bag: Baiastice, Pida . Shoos: [gos], Halle **Fameshed** . Feet/Hands: SLink . Poses: Diesel Works .***Tiger Alley:

The take from? Life’s funny, we spend it worrying so much about what others would think, letting other’s opinion’s be the catalyst for the choices we make. So the take from, I suppose, is none of us has control over how we will be remembered. Every life is a fusion of time, opportunity, choices and decisions. It’s impossible to know what moments, what foibles, what successes will come to define us once we are gone. So the best we can do is live our lives fully, be authentically ourselves, and trust that the right things about us, the best most cherishing things about us, will echo in the memories that endure as our legacy to our loved ones. Of course, anybody who believes all that has never sat through the rehashing of “Cao stories” that goes on around our Thanksgiving dinner table, but that’s just my wooden nickel on it, probably not worth the time it took to read it.

34 thoughts on “Get Out of Fail Free Card

  1. defiantly was worth the time it took to read it, and it would be nice if we did all these fabulous things that we are remembered for but it still comes down to how you live. We should grasp our moments and run with them as we never know how many we have. I would like to think I will be remembered because I was kind to all those less fortunate {which I will always be{ But honestly if I am not I am pretty sure I won’t care at that point lol. Live life on your terms, hope you made a positive impact but firstly Live that life , and some times it does include poor choices but as long as you learn from them you will be less likely to repeat them but no matter what don’t fail to try something for fear of failing. Hell I was afraid to get married to then I did it, and I did it again, Oh! and again. I was not afraid to try for fear I would fail but I did totally suck at it…Jus sayin. Love the new skin and I defo think you should keep it. Lara has gotten so much better, In fact I won Face of October in a Lara skin only thing was the darker the skin the brighter the glow on the chin. I found at Skin Fair she has corrected that but too Late I won’t give up my Glam affair. Ok enough dribble for me all in same day….Love you Dollface ❤

  2. You’re a modern Aesop, with a prettier name! I think your nuggest regarding life and the process of doing it are useful and helpful at least to one little old lady in teenytinyville SC.

  3. Thank you for reminding me I did make the right decision a few weeks ago. I feel like I have aged 10 years the past weeks. I need to remember what I did was right for me and I need to be happy. My sadness of the loss, had me worried. Hugs Cao, you are truly such an inspiration. ♥ (LOL reading my comment again, almost sounds like I killed someone 😉 )

    1. I am getting there my dear friend, one day I hope to find the perfect replacement skin (ie with appliers) but I want to thank you for taking this walk with me. I get all angst -y pop over to your blog and feel much better. ♡

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