Nerd Couture

When I was little, I wanted to be a civil engineer. Not a ballerina, not a doctor, a civil engineer. I was such a nerd.~ Bitsie Tulloch
nerd couture

 At times I hear things that really bother me. My most faithful reader’s know I am a huge advocate for stopping bullying. In Central Florida, bullying has just taken it’s next victim in the form of a fourteen year old male who committed suicide. That kind of bullying is blatant and obvious, and no child (or adult) should be subjected to it, especially at a school with adults in attendance. But this time, that’s not what I want to talk about, I want to talk about a more subtle type of bullying. A friend on Facebook mentioned a person in the audience of a runway show was heckling a model as she walked. Out loud. In local chat. There is a reason I retired from runway, I find shows painfully laggy and as an awkward, hyper-active nerdy type in RL, sitting for hours at a time makes me antsy, stressed out and dysfunctional. And that’s at a non-laggy show. But I’m not the point here, the heckler is. And I want to share something I’ve learned while working in the business world, well, lets just say, for a while now. I’ve worked pretty much since I was fifteen years old, you see, nerds don’t need prom dates and homecoming games.  These aren’t just related to work, they are related to living a well-lived life but for now, we will call them “Cao’s Rules of Modeling 101.”

The first two are light and easy, I’ll begin with “quit telling everyone you are miserable,” when it’s laggy and you can’t move, guess what? Everyone is typically having similar issues and when you constantly mention it to everyone who will listen, they begin to think you’ve missed a little training somewhere. Make the best of the situation and move on, this show too shall pass. If you choose keep up that type of prattle, people won’t want to walk in shows with you anymore.  Another one, “don’t tell lies” is always important. If you did something wrong and get caught, tell the truth, because the nasty thing about lies is they are perpetuating and it’s exhausting to have to keep finding that fake face and putting it back on. And the third. The most important one, also the one I hope the heckler reads and writes to heart.

In life, and in work, never speak or behave out of rage or revenge. Why? Easy, I call it my “It’s a Small World” theory. When you backstab people, or in this case front stab, it is aimed to hurt the recipient but the sad part it’s typically the stabber who gets hurt. In all honesty, your really just humiliating and embarrassing yourself because that type of behavior tends to come back to bite you on the arse. How do I figure? I’m glad you asked! It’s because it’s truly is a small world. And you may not particularly like this model, but I reckon maybe one day you will want to work for someone they work for. Oh wait, you already burned that bridge, didn’t you? Or just maybe, one of the people you want to work for sees or hears about it and it causes them to reconsider or form and opinion of you. Now that’s the caviar in the lesson plan isn’t it? Surely everyone learns in training, whether for a real life job or a Second Life one, networking is the key. And your network is only as strong as your weakest link. And if you run around grabbing what you think is a strong key link and discarding others who may or may not be (yet) strong links, well, you’re going to end up with some pretty shoddy workmanship at the end. Of course, if that’s what you were going for, I’d say good job.  But, that’s just my wooden nickels worth, take it for what it means to you. I know, I’m “retired” so probably not a lot.

Necklace/Earrings: Zibska, Kjersti,  **2014 JEWELRY FAIR** RUNNNNN!!!!
Hair: Boon, ZPO133
Glasses: Ison, Quinton
Shirt: Ison, Geometric corset
Knickers: *Just Because*SC, Highwaisted bottom
Boot: Ison, Carazon
Bag: Ison, Pandora duffle
Pose: {Imeka}

13 thoughts on “Nerd Couture

  1. I’ll take some of that caviar please. 😛
    That’s why I have the “just walk away” attitude…eventually they will get sorted and it isn’t up to me to do it. Great post little moo. ❤ ❤

  2. and then I went back and red the post…Guilty I was hit and run and only looked at the styling the first time through….Doh!!!! great post too and I may not know who you mean but I did witness a similar incident this week and was not happy about it atoll, didn’t happen to me but, then it doesn’t have to to get my Ire….I love the nerdy you hehe

  3. Agreed with your points about modeling, little moo! The heckling brings down the atmosphere of the whole show in more ways than one. Being a nerd myself, I remember this quote from Star Trek – Wrath of Khan *laughs*… ‘Revenge is a dish best eaten cold’ And the guy who played Khan (Ricardo Montalbán)… wooo hooo sexy lol, a much better diversion than revenge any day 🙂

  4. I’ve never been to a fashion show. Maybe I’ll go to one once people start wearing houses and chairs on their person. 😀

    I love that advice. We think our world is so huge, but it’s not, really. People bump into each other.

    My mantra is to always be nice and respectful to everyone. You never know whose alt they are. 😉

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