Women think of all colors except the absence of color. I have said that black has it all. White too. Their beauty is absolute. It is the perfect harmony. ~ Coco Chanel, Chanel
Orson Welles once said, “If you want a happy ending, it just depends on where you close the book!” I want to post a little bit of a reblog in the hopes it will spur you to write your own happy endings. I know for so many of us, especially women, it’s hard to put down all those ugly adjectives when we think of ourselves and our bodies, so on this day, let’s declare a moratorium on self-loathing. We’ve spent our life time fighting how we look, let’s retire and embrace all that makes us uniquely us. Go look in the mirror and visually remove all those labels, feel them fall away to shatter on the floor “big nose” *crash*, “small lips” *crash*, “fat” *crash*, “too thin” *crash*, “too pale” *crash*, “too dark” *crash*. Look at your face, not your labels, just your face, with the criticism and judgment gone, can you see the beauty the world sees? Never measure your self, base your body confidence, on another’s opinion because dimes to donuts their notions come preconceived with all the baggage they’ve picked up along the way. Typically when I come around one of these soul sucking people, I sit myself in front of a mirror and listen to all the things they said rolling around in my head and to each comment I simply say “I don’t care” with a smile on my face. And you know what? At some point, I know it’s true. I really don’t care about this persons opinion and in all honestly I feel sorry for them that they have to live with their own miserable ways. Besides, most people experienced chronic emotional invalidation growing up but in that regard, as adults we shouldn’t expect others to validate who we are, only we can do that.
Look around, there are a lot of what would be non-traditionally beautiful celebrities who rock sexy gorgeousness. How? Because being sexy and being beautiful are attributes born on the inside. A lot of what is appealing to others oozes from your soul. It’s that moment in time when you realize, I am not only lovable, I am confident that I am a desirable person as well. This new found confidence adds a sexy inner glow to you but the trick is getting there, right? If you had a friend who was feeling sad or unloved, you’d cheer her up wouldn’t you? Why would you not cheer yourself up? I still have my little post-it reminders on my bathroom mirror. You know the ones, “you are sexy,” “you look gorgeous today” because at times I get so stuck in the mundane I forget to thank myself for being me. Think about it, when we are in a loving relationship, we accept that no one is perfect, because we love what is so darn good about the other person. So if we can settle for a lover “as is” why can’t we accept the same of ourselves? Shouldn’t you treat yourself the same as you would your best friend? I think so, because you are the only friend you will have your entire life.
Take from? Yep, it’s here. We spend so much time waiting to be loved, hoping love will find us, searching for a special love. We often feel empty and lost without it. We believe someone will give us love and complete us. Unfortunately, that’s not usually how life works. We cannot be loved until we learn how to love. As for me, this morning I tossed all my post-it notes because it’s time to update. Just as relationships and friendships change, soften, with time, so does our love for ourselves. We quit paying attention, what makes us “us” changes, our needs change. Grabbing five more, today I will write five positive words that describe me and repost them to the mirror. Not only does it make me spend time thinking of me, it enforces what I know is true. I’m ok and life is good. I shore hope yours is too, because you, to me, are beautiful.
Hat: *SoliDea FoliEs*, Flower Crown **The Couturier’s Dock**
Outfit: *SoliDea FoliEs*, Caoimhe
Jacket: Ison, Divine Bolero
Ring: [Mandala], Motsumame
Necklace: LaGyo, Blanche
Skin: Glam Affair
Pose: oOo Studios