“Breathe. Let go. And remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
Disclaimer for my Bella Boo: There is the possible, impossibility that the attire I am wearing was given to me by a designer though as I’ve not blogged in a week or so the probability that I actually purchased the attire is where I’d hedge my bets.
Believing in yourself, that you have the capacity and freedom to succeed in your own goals, is an integral part of growing up. It is with this grown up belief in our own capacity that we obtain the fulfillment of what we have strived for. I get it, we so often fail, but does failure this time truly mean you have failed? Every single thing that happens to us in our lives, the good and the bad, serves some purpose to shaping who we will one day become. I get it, life sucks at times, but without that soul-sucking sound, do we truly know what it will mean to obtain a goal, or does it slightly lose its meaning, its crystal poignancy? That finite moment at the apex when we look back and say, “I reckon that part where I sullied in the quagmire of muck and thought I would drown I wasn’t at my best, but look at me now, I am on top” sure feels a lot better than, “ok that was a hill, I walked up it, here I am at the top.” You might think you want the latter, but would it mean as much to you? Let’s just say I’d like to feel like the latter but actually have been through the former, but we all know they will be making silk purses from a sow’s ear before that occurs.
I try so hard to stay out of drama, but at the end of the day, like all of us, I tend to go home with a huge coffee stain on the front of my shirt, a button torn and my hair awry from the effort. I recently made a comment on Facebook about what I felt was a poor choice of judgment and the ensuing conflagration that transpired left me shaking and wondering why I bothered. What I thought was a simple matter of pointing out the obvious didn’t set so well with one or two friends. I will leave it with I stand by my original comment, I know bad faith judgment when I see it, but I will bow to their assertion they can do whatever they want. Because they can, that’s the part where they get to rule their own destiny too. By golly, carry on and do as you will, as for me, showered and changed, though not at the top of any apex I say “I think I did OK.” Had it been reversed, I’d have been sticking up for them too, but alas, that’s not always the case.
The take from? If you are wondering what this is all about. Please don’t. It wasn’t worth the time it took to transpire. Look instead at the writing under the surface of the words. The biggest adventure you can ever take, isn’t in a book, it’s living your dreams. Not all events in life go as planned, but if you can find a small iota of good in anything that happens to you, my good was the support and uplifting I received from friends, you will find you have grown, you have learned, and you are one step closer to growing up fulfilled. Well, that’s my take from it anyway. Have a peaceful day!
Hair: Vanity Hair, Karma **NEW** (see Bella? I can make my style a part of my words too 😉 )
Glasses: FxR, Government glasses @Uber
Jewelry: Glam Affair, Ana @Uber
Jacket: *CoCo*, Long Sleeve Bolero
Dress: Baiastice, Danika
Shoos: Reign, Avantee @Uber
Skin: Glam Affair, Aria