In the aftermath of the now quasi-infamous, very public “how to lose a friend in two days” Facebook meltdown that transpired a little over a week ago, I took the weekend to take stock of where I am, as compared to where I was. We may not admit it, but we all generally take a moment to think about how a crisis in our lives transpired, whether to dwell in sorrow or in righteous indignation that we were “done wrong.” It’s human nature. The thing is, these skirmishes are generally unanswerable questions because face it, they usually involve multiple people and where multiples are involved there is no true right or wrong unless the act involved illegal activity. We are all, after all, a product of the mores and ethos of how we were raised. And though we oft think, “what were you raised by wolves” when we are angry at some ones abhorrent behavior, it is seldom the true case. Or perhaps only I think that, who knows? But, how each of us chooses to reach a conclusion becomes a test and measure of our character. Would I have been happier had I not been involved? This is the type of question we all drag behind us like a bag of rocks after we stand for something, the sad thing is, if we don’t absolve ourselves of our part, or at the least accept it, it makes it harder to execute clean decisions in the future.
Is there a cookie cutter right answer to our moments where we choose to make a stand? Probably not. But I can guarantee, making a stand for what you feel is right sure feels like validation no matter which side of the argument you are on. And I’d rather feel validated than riddled with the regret that I didn’t do what I felt was right, because in life you have to stand for something or you’re not truly living. I reckon, there is one thing I do know, we don’t get to live life over and each of our lives is our own canvas to paint. Sure there may be some ugly smudges on your work of art right now, but you should love with joy that you created those smudgy learning points just as well as you created the gorgeously fluent colorful slashes of paint of your good moments. Is your work of art redolent of the sweetest Van Gogh? Probably not… yet, but then, if you are reading this, or breathing, then you’re not quite finished yet. I like the thought of that.
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