“There are some things in this world you rely on, like a sure bet. And when they let you down, shifting from where you’ve carefully placed them, it shakes your faith, right where you stand.” ~ Sarah Dessen, Someone Like You
There was a job opening at my real life employment recently and six people from my department put in for it because it was an increase in pay. Not being a job I am interested in, I am glad I didn’t even bother. I am at the point in my life where I am comfortable, so I would have to really enjoy the change to make a move because money isn’t one of my working motivations any more, becoming gainfully unemployed is (retiring). But also, having put in for promotions in the past when money was a fascination to me and having been passed over for less-suitable card carrying clique members, I knew the odds of getting the promotion were slim to nil. Unfortunately, one of my good friends did put in for it. The sad part was, he not only has a college degree, he already has real world job experience in the field the promotion entails so when he was passed over for a person with no experience, less employment with the company and no college at all, the feeling was devastating for him. I cheered him up best I could, but seriously, what would make this any better? It was blatantly obvious to everyone with a brain what just happened.
At the same time last week, I did something I rarely do. I applied to be a blogger for a designer. I really don’t know why I applied, I’ve not done so in years. I guess my only excuse is I wear this designers product on my avatar almost exclusively every day and when you blog almost 365 days of the year, that’s an awful lot of blogging. I am certainly sure the bloggers they picked were amazing, and much better at their skill sets than me, I am a self-professed “point and shoot” photographer at best, but it still smarted my ego just a little. Well, maybe not my ego, but it did momentarily disappoint me. And no, I don’t think I am “entitled,” I think it a natural human response. But you know what? I did the only thing I could do. I did the exact same thing I mentioned to my friend at work. I stepped back, I ranted at the loss to my besty, I cried a second or two, I got a little angry, and then I thought, “if I can look up, I can get up.” And I did just that, I adjusted my thinking, I began to wonder why I gave such loyalty, was it because I was too lazy to look around? And why would I want to give exclusive loyalty to a designer who feels none for me? So I made one of the best decisions of my life. I dusted off my big girl knickers and moved on. And at the end of the day, I am so glad I did because I went out and explored new options. And after much exploration, I found a product that I like more than the product I was wearing all this time and it was right there being offered by a friend I know who appreciates and respects me.
The take from? In all things in life there is give and take, but when you are doing all the giving and someone else all the taking, it may be time to move on. Whether it’s a personal relationship or a working one, you are just as important as the other person in the relationship, no matter their position. I somehow truly believe that if you do move on, you will find something as good as, but probably much better than what you had before. Because the bottom line is just like them, you are worth something.
Hat: Miamai, Kotoshiro-Nushi-Kami @We ❤ RP
Hair: *Argrace*, Yuzu **NEW**
Earrings: ieQED, Araw
Glasses: *+crie style+*, Scioilto
Necklace: [Mandala], Nyorai
Jacket: [Celoe], Rossi
Belt: [Celoe], Abel
Pants: *LpD*, New Boho pant
Bag: [Celoe], Sack bag barley
Ring: P.C., The Envy Ring
Skin: Clef de Peau, Liu **NEW**