“I am Nobody, nobody is perfect, therefore I am perfect.” ~ Dandi Daley Mackall, Love Rules
I am going to run off at the keyboard a little today, not too much mind you, I am getting out of here and making another three day weekend of this. I’ve found I kind of like those. I am too much of a workaholic to leave for weeks on end, but three days are just enough time not to feel claustrophobic and ready to spork someone. But right now I want to comment, I think a lot of bloggers know I read a lot of blogs. And when I am not reading, I am looking at all of your incredible pictures. You are all amazing! I don’t know if you ever hear this, I know I certainly don’t very often, at least not from some of the people I want to have this affirmation from. But I want you to know, I really enjoy you! I love how you style, I love how you introduce me to new designers, I love your pictures, your song choices (those who have them) and your words! Your words! How I love those the most. I’ve read poems, short stories, articles of view, put together it’s like cozying down with a dog-eared favorite magazine and all the bloggers I follow are contributors. You guys are my Second Life virtual Vogue magazine! I read things that make me smile, laugh out loud, and sometimes even sadden or make me angry.
Today, one thing in particular made me sad, and I won’t mention it other than it was a disagreement between two individuals that ended with one muting the other. I hate that feature of Second Life. Don’t get me wrong, I understand it’s purpose, it’s to protect the user from unwarranted harassment, but sadly most people’s knee jerk reaction during an argument is to mute the person they are arguing with. This doesn’t solve the issue, make it go away, or make you feel much better I wouldn’t think. In fact, I think all it gets you is dead space and the loss of a person who could one day be very important to you. When you mute them, this is not longer possible, it’s as if you grabbed a weapon and vaporized them from your hemisphere. Can’t you be content to say, I have nothing left to say and just walk away? I have always said I have never muted a person, to be honest, I am not 100% sure how, but when I checked recently I had muted people (and objects but that’s another story).. In my seven years, I have muted three to be exact, one person I didn’t even remember who she was, how important could it have been to mute them? The second was a wanna be suitor who apparently didn’t know the meaning of not interested, but even him, I’m not sure he wouldn’t have wandered off on his own to someone who was. The third person was the worst I am ashamed to admit. One of the times I was having a gentle “debate” on Facebook with a rather “cantankerous” ah ‘ell, I’ll say it, a bullying man with a lot of drama queen tendencies, one of the people who hangs on (or is it hangs themselves?) on his every word, unfriended me on Facebook and inworld and in a snit I did my best “Oh yeah?” and took 20 minutes to figure out how and muted her out of spite. Did I feel great about it? No, I felt guilty, it’s totally against all I believe in and it solved nothing. Why didn’t it solve anything? Because I took away her ability to coexist in my world and me in hers in spite of differences of opinion. And isn’t that what the world is all about? People with nothing in common learning to co-exist in harmony?
Anyway, I hope you enjoy your weekend! As for me, I have to log in for a little bit and figure out how to unmute a few people.
Hair: Argrace, Seri
Hat: =zenith, Summer hat @Uber
Dress: *Nya’s, beach dress @ Event @1st
Bracelet: .random matter, Norbu @ Uber
Bag: (TokiD), elephant bag
Hair: Argrace, Seri
Glasses: [Steinwerk], Etienne
Dress: Appear, Barbara dress @Event @1st
Bag: [Handverk], Flamingo clutch