There is a kind of beauty in imperfection. ~ Conrad Hall
I’ve wanted to say something about this for a few weeks now, but I’ve stopped myself. Lately I’ve been trying to be more fashion blog than “everyone’s entitled to my opinion” because I am oft confused at what my followers are here for. But, I find, it’s not in me to bury my head back in the sand because frankly there is a lot of summer left to be exposed to Target’s new commercial on TV and as a “fairy Godmother” to my little princess pirate it pisses me off no end. Do you know the ones? The commercials that picture unrealistically thin teenage females in bikini’s, and creates self-loathing and esteem lowering “I hate my body” moments? This crap tends to haunt every female above the age of eight. I can’t be the only one. But even if I am a party of one, I won’t stand by and watch the bullying any longer.
Dear Target, the female body need not be rail thin to wear a swimsuit, float in a pool, or walk along the beach. Your continued choice to promote overly thin models in swim wear is yet another shocking example of the cruel and damaging way that society judges women’s bodies, the damaging way YOU judge our bodies. In fact, if your definition of beauty gets any thinner, soon, no one will fit into the role for your commercials. Only a small fraction of women fall into these ideals now, and consequently, we tend to feel disheartened when we realize our body goals are essentially unattainable. So a sarcastic thanks for making us feel good about ourselves again this year. Advertising, magazines and the media have a lot to answer for; with their all-too-common marketing tactics, initially, making their customers feel insecure and inadequate and then promising their products are the cure that will make them feel better about themselves. Seriously, that’s where I was going, but now I’ve detoured because the fact of the matter is, we aren’t going to try to obtain some “norm,” YOUR idea of perfection. We won’t believe true beauty is only found with endless perfection, because the norm keeps changing so quickly we can’t possibly keep up anyway. These day’s curves are the flavor of the season, it’s found with a well curved arse, huge fake breasts, tiny waists, a sexy little thigh gap, flawless skin and white teeth, right? Because, let’s face it, if we don’t fall into these ideals, we are slammed, shamed or shunned. What is more painful: the feeling of rejection for not looking a certain way or the failure at the inability to achieve these beauty ideals? I’m not sure, but I know it’s impossible to feel like a winner on either side of that game.
The point? Some women are thin, that doesn’t mean they are anorexic. Some women have curves, it doesn’t mean they are obese. Quit making us hate our bodies! How can young people learn to love themselves, in a world that constantly tells them not to? In a world that continuously wraps a beauty “ideal” over their eyes, blinding them from seeing the true meaning of beauty because last I checked girls didn’t wake up one day and say “today is the day I will hate my body”, we teach them to. We label boxes and put them in them, little boxes like “too fat”, “too skinny.” We belittle them with comments like, “she looks like she needs to eat a couple of Big Macs”, “she sure is brave wearing that swimsuit looking like that”, “are you really going to eat that?” We judge on first appearances without regard to who they are under the skin. So let’s stop this now. Let’s quit looking at an “ideal” that leaves most women staring in the mirror with self-loathing and disappointment. Let’s open our eyes and embrace the faces, the bodies of all of humanity in all of its many different shapes and forms. Can you imagine? A world in which we can celebrate the beautifully crafted, amazingly gorgeous diversity of women’s bodies, instead of brainwashing us into believing only one body type is worthy and desirable. After all those years of hearing ‘not thin enough, not pretty enough, not smart enough, not this enough, not that enough’ we need to realize that it’s not us that needs altering, it’s our culture! Just as I won’t be defined by my age, I will no longer be defined by a number on a scale because from where I sit, every single body owns the perfect body to wear your dam bathing suits! Just my wooden nickel on the topic, I think I’m done now.
Hair: Iconic, Vaska @ On9
Dress: Gizza, MeiMei @ On9
Earrings: Kunglers, Ciri @ On9
Shoos: E-Clipse, Sumatra @ On9
Nails: NailedIt!, Feria de Abril @ On9
Necklace: Kunglers, Radiji @ We
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