Recently I was reading a message board for an agency I am a member of and was a little taken aback by some of the scathing remarks written there. Written in so public an arena too. I read it, and tucked it away for later thought, I am above all a thinker and a watcher. But even more important, I am a business person with a business degree. But this isn’t business, or is it? It is an agency that promotes Second Life business, but that’s not really the point. The point is in the blind world of virtuality on the Internet, you are relating with people you have no true knowledge of. So whether it’s business or personal you have to accept, people have squabbles and “issues”, and when someone airs their squabbles, do you really want to get down and sully yourself like a Sus scrofa in the mud? is it truly necessary? Does the issue pass the Cao three question rule for responding? I know! I bet you’ve never heard of such a thing! It’s like this, “wow, that person just said something about me that might make me look bad, I can rip him/her a new one and defend myself. Or I can calmly ask him to better explain his issues because that is not quite the way I remember the event transpiring (the moral high road). To make my decision I ask myself: (1) Is a snarky condescending confrontation truly necessary? In the grand scheme of things will this be such a huge issue in one month? Two? A year? (2) Is this something I can solve by explaining peacefully with the readers of the forum without calling the offending party out? If I just explained the issue calmly from my own point of view, without rash judgments of character, who will look like the idiot then? (3) Would it be better solved by trying to reach an agreement with the offended without further adding to the already public display?
The take from? Well of course, its in the title. Most fits of anger in a virtual climate are typically begun by a misunderstanding of words, tone of words by the receiver and the sender, or in this case, non-words since the person was accused of ignoring the vocal party. Take the time and try to resolve issues behind doors, even if you have been attacked in front of those doors. Why? Because that’s what adults should do. People, associates, family, your children, they don’t need to see you onstage. Whether your argument is in real life, a second life, a personal life or a business life, keep it between the key players. The title? Testudinate is of or relating to the turtle, detritus is actually non-living particulate organic material, but I use it loosely to mean the sloughing off of dead layers of relationships, the baggage of things gone wrong. As you may know, turtles can breathe out of their, well, arses. Don’t handle things by talking out of your arse, always attempt to minimize the detritus by being open, honest and face value about your concerns. If you do, in the end, the “audience” will admire that you did so. All Landmarks for the style are under my “Last Known SLURL’s page.” Check them out, I know you will find the perfect item to express your style!